Abused Men in Relationship: Some of the Best Resources on the Internet


0
110 shares

What does “gender equality” means to you? We all know for sure that there are many abusive men on this earth. You might even have expressed your concern by talking about it with others or sharing about it on social media. But, have you tried talking about the topic of abuse and the oppression towards men? Or, have you considered this possibility? If not, then perhaps it is time for you to break the stereotype: only women are abused. There are many men who are abused too by their domestic partner or worst, by the society or the government. For now, we will leave the “oppression on men” topic and reserve it to another article and just focus on the abuse through their domestic or romantic relationship.

Photo source: geckoandfly.com/25156/quotes-abusive-toxic-relationships/

It is undeniable that both men and women experience abuse. The only difference is that men are just quiet and are ashamed to complain about it due to many reasons such as ridicule by the society, labeled as “weak”, and most probably, by the societal conditioning or judgment (i.e. machismo, etc.). No matter which gender experience more abuse, it doesn’t matter. Abuse is abuse and it should be addressed or stopped whether physical or emotional. In today’s society, most people are conditioned by so many “feminist” influenced institutions (ex. radio, television shows, magazines, and other pop culture outlets). Most people have made to believe that women are weak, not capable of abusing men, and are always the victim. This is plainly wrong! There is nothing wrong with feminism per se for as long as it is promoting “real” gender equality or representations such as addressing the abuse on men and the oppression to male gender in general.

Photo source: dccourts.gov/fcconference/2018_family_court_conference/biographies2.html

Most abuse experienced by men is emotional which is tightly connected to the psychological well-being of a person and are very difficult to address because it is invisible. Some examples are (but not limited to) public humiliation, name calling, threats, guilt tripping, gas-lighting, accusation, constant anger towards them, and displeasure caused by the abuser’s personality and unresolved psychological issues. If experienced frequently, this leaves serious impacts and deep wound that can last longer causing damage to their self-esteem, physical and mental health, and functioning in general. Consciously or unconsciously, women tend to do this kind of abuse due to many reasons. Some examples of these are (but not limited to) personality disorder due to childhood experience (intense feelings of abandonment), parental abuse, neglect, and narcissistic abuse. This could also be caused by the abuser’s impulsive behavior, mood swings, and other kinds of personality problems.

Photo source: domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/male-victims-of-abuse-face-stigmas

Because this issue is rarely talked about and often dismissed and disregarded as something insignificant, maybe it is time for us to reconsider if it is really a non-issue. In this way, we can break the taboo and most importantly, help those who are undergoing abuse in their relationship. At the same time, we can also educate others to prevent them from letting this happen to their life or the people they know or care about. Also, through addressing this issue, we can help heal the society from this ill (abuse). Now, this being said, here are some of the best resources that can help concerned people or men who are undergoing abuse from their partner:

Photo source: change.org/p/jerry-brown-raise-awareness-on-male-victims-of-domestic-abuse

Suffering in Silence: The Emotional Abuse of Men (a TED talk by Dr. Timothy Golden)

Articles / texts: 

Videos:


Like it? Share with your friends!

0
110 shares
Alter Picar

Alter Picar is a writer, translator, self-published author, songwriter / musician, community worker, non-profit organization manager (volunteer), mental health advocate / educator, librarian, and organic gardener.

Comments

comments

Choose A Format
Story
Formatted Text with Embeds and Visuals
Image
Photo or GIF
Video
Youtube, Vimeo or Vine Embeds
Audio
Soundcloud or Mixcloud Embeds
Poll
Voting to make decisions or determine opinions
List
The Classic Internet Listicles
Open List
Submit your own item and vote up for the best submission
Ranked List
Upvote or downvote to decide the best list item
Countdown
The Classic Internet Countdowns
Meme
Upload your own images to make custom memes
Gif
GIF format